Three Years Too Late – for me, that is

A fascinating article that may be eerily familiar to many of you. I went to one of these high schools and it was fucked up.


On the other hand, maybe we’re just a coddled generation – unable to deal with not being the best; in need of shelter from the fury of the real world.

Also, I can’t decide if it’s funnier that that the guy got hate mail from all over the country or that the seniors are required to take yoga.

10 thoughts on “Three Years Too Late – for me, that is

  1. Marianna

    I went to Needham High…I thought I recognized the wrestling room floor. We actually had yoga as part of the required PE curriculum when I was there four years ago. I think this article accurately describes the culture at NHS, sorry 10:25. It’s crazy, and definitely a cultural thing and to be honest, fairly self-imposed. But the teachers there are great people and they only want the best for the kids there – Mr. Smokler is the most human, empathetic teacher I’ve ever had.

  2. Marianna

    I went to Needham High…I thought I recognized the wrestling room floor. We actually had yoga as part of the required PE curriculum when I was there four years ago. I think this article accurately describes the culture at NHS, sorry 10:25. It’s crazy, and definitely a cultural thing and to be honest, fairly self-imposed. But the teachers there are great people and they only want the best for the kids there – Mr. Smokler is the most human, empathetic teacher I’ve ever had.

  3. Eamon

    I dont think that the problem can just be relegated to the schools. In places like Needham, you have affluent parents who put pressure on their kids to do well in school and go to a brand name college. I personally went to a school with a really high level of economic and racial diversity, and neither the people I knew, nor myself were ever driven to the point of nervous breakdowns or super stressful situations. I mean, yeah, things got hectic when the theses were due, but we didnt have yoga or stress classes. (But we did have an armed police officer!) I think the schools reflect the attitudes of the parents in that district, and when you are in an environment where there is nothing but pressure to be successful, chances are, it’s gonna be pretty stressful. So really, this guy should be telling the parents to back the fuck up a few steps and let their kids be kids. Parents (and students) should know that high school is just high school, and that the college you go to doesn’t make or break who you are. It’s the effort you put into that college that matters.

  4. Eamon

    I dont think that the problem can just be relegated to the schools. In places like Needham, you have affluent parents who put pressure on their kids to do well in school and go to a brand name college. I personally went to a school with a really high level of economic and racial diversity, and neither the people I knew, nor myself were ever driven to the point of nervous breakdowns or super stressful situations. I mean, yeah, things got hectic when the theses were due, but we didnt have yoga or stress classes. (But we did have an armed police officer!) I think the schools reflect the attitudes of the parents in that district, and when you are in an environment where there is nothing but pressure to be successful, chances are, it’s gonna be pretty stressful. So really, this guy should be telling the parents to back the fuck up a few steps and let their kids be kids. Parents (and students) should know that high school is just high school, and that the college you go to doesn’t make or break who you are. It’s the effort you put into that college that matters.

  5. Anonymous

    i dated someone for about two years who was a student at needham high and i think they really underemphasized the culture of needham high school. it has become defined by the suicide cluster that has taken place over the past few years, and i know a lot of his friends ended up switching high schools because of the rampant depression, serious alcohol abuse, etc. i know that stress is common at all high schools, but for this one specifically, there’s a lot more going on that just common teenage anxieties. with that said, my high school had yoga classes, a stress reduction committee, and has never published gpas, and the stress level was still through the roof.

  6. Anonymous

    i dated someone for about two years who was a student at needham high and i think they really underemphasized the culture of needham high school. it has become defined by the suicide cluster that has taken place over the past few years, and i know a lot of his friends ended up switching high schools because of the rampant depression, serious alcohol abuse, etc. i know that stress is common at all high schools, but for this one specifically, there’s a lot more going on that just common teenage anxieties. with that said, my high school had yoga classes, a stress reduction committee, and has never published gpas, and the stress level was still through the roof.

  7. Jacon

    In some ways I agree with you that Wesleyan isn’t like those high schools, yet on another level I wonder, as it seems to me that we continue to stress about our work a great deal, albeit for (possibly) different reasons.

  8. Jacon

    In some ways I agree with you that Wesleyan isn’t like those high schools, yet on another level I wonder, as it seems to me that we continue to stress about our work a great deal, albeit for (possibly) different reasons.

  9. Mad Joy

    This article rings so true for me. Most of the time I try to manage to completely disassociate myself from my high school self; basically, when I looked for colleges, I was looking for an atmosphere that was exactly the opposite of my high school atmosphere. I think I found that in Wesleyan – students are very intellectual and passionate, but laidback, not high-strung and overly competitive.I think it’s a serious problem, though. All these kids are really smart and really knowledgeable by the time this intense system gets through with them, and they’re generally pretty well-equipped to go to top schools (minus the reliance they still have on their parents, but they’ll become helicopter parents anyway, so it will work out for everyone’s mutual benefit. kind of.)It’s so sad that there’s this ultraemphasis on success and education being the only means to it in this microsociety (affluent suburban neighbourhoods), and a distinct lack of emphasis in other American microsocieties, where students aren’t encouraged to succeed at all, because they’re not expected to do anything with their life like this haughty four year college thing. Can’t we all just have a balance? Aww. The state of public school education today makes me so sad. I want to go teach and help make things better :(

  10. Mad Joy

    This article rings so true for me. Most of the time I try to manage to completely disassociate myself from my high school self; basically, when I looked for colleges, I was looking for an atmosphere that was exactly the opposite of my high school atmosphere. I think I found that in Wesleyan – students are very intellectual and passionate, but laidback, not high-strung and overly competitive.

    I think it’s a serious problem, though. All these kids are really smart and really knowledgeable by the time this intense system gets through with them, and they’re generally pretty well-equipped to go to top schools (minus the reliance they still have on their parents, but they’ll become helicopter parents anyway, so it will work out for everyone’s mutual benefit. kind of.)

    It’s so sad that there’s this ultraemphasis on success and education being the only means to it in this microsociety (affluent suburban neighbourhoods), and a distinct lack of emphasis in other American microsocieties, where students aren’t encouraged to succeed at all, because they’re not expected to do anything with their life like this haughty four year college thing. Can’t we all just have a balance? Aww. The state of public school education today makes me so sad. I want to go teach and help make things better :(

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