Dana Pellegrino ’12 sends in this op-ed from the NY Times about how dating is becoming a lost art and increasingly replaced by hookups:
According to a report released this spring by Child Trends, a Washington research group, there are now more high school seniors saying that they never date than seniors who say that they date frequently. Apparently, it’s all about the hookup.
It turns out that everything is the opposite of what I remember. Under the old model, you dated a few times and, if you really liked the person, you might consider having sex. Under the new model, you hook up a few times and, if you really like the person, you might consider going on a date.
So why is there an increase in hooking up? According to Professor Bogle, it’s: the collapse of advanced planning, lopsided gender ratios on campus, delaying marriage, relaxing values and sheer momentum.
It used to be that “you were trained your whole life to date,” said Ms. Bogle. “Now we’ve lost that ability — the ability to just ask someone out and get to know them.”
Thoughts? One could argue that sex with no strings attached is preferable above all else, but speaking from experience, I see nothing bad about asking someone out for dinner/coffee/whatever, and personally find it preferable to a one-night stand with someone with whom you’ll never have an emotional connection…
NY Times: The Demise of Dating