Ask Wesleying: Feeling Isolated

Welcome to the sixth installment of Ask Wesleying, an advice column about any and all things Wes! Have a question about life at Wes? Submit it to get it answered in Ask Wesleying! You can find all of the Ask Wesleying columns here.

This week’s question is about intimacy of the emotional variety:

Dear Wesleying,

I feel like Wesleyan’s culture encourages shallow relationships. I find little emotional intimacy in my relationships here. Is this a Wesleyan thing or a me thing?

Sincerely,
Feeling Isolated

You can read the answer to this week’s question below the jump!

Procrastination Destination: What Mariah Carey is doing right now

Welcome to the first installment of Procrastination Destination, where Wesleying provides you #content to get you through finals!

Mariah Carey in December

Like any good Wesleyan student during finals season, I’ve got Mariah on my mind:

On the day after Thanksgiving, Mariah Carey awakens from her slumber. Her eyelids flutter open and she takes a big breath in, stretching her arms and cracking her back. She senses the slight change in the air, a little spring in her step, and sees in the mirror that she looks about five years younger. Christmas is upon us, she whispers with a grin.

HAPPENING NOW: Protect Title IX and Tell DeVos: #HandsOffIX

The Title IX Student Advisory Committee is currently putting on a training and comment-writing event to address proposed changes to Title IX that would harm survivors:

Betsy DeVos’s most recent changes to Title IX propose to protect those who are accused of sexual violence, and the institutions to which they belong, rather than students.

The Trump administrations’s proposed changes include only requiring schools to investigate the most extreme forms of harassment and assault, allow schools to ignore violence that occurs outside of school programs, increase barriers to reporting, and allow schools to delay investigations for months.
Read more here:
https://actionnetwork.org/user_files/user_files/000/028/107/original/Two_pager_on_proposed_rule.pdf

The good news? We have 60 days to comment. Writing a comment is basically the Education Department version of calling your senators, and it’s the best way to make our voices heard for Title IX.

To write a comment, join the Title IX Student Advisory Committee this Thursday, Dec. 6th in the Downey House Lounge. Drop in any time from 4-7 PM. There will be pizza, information on the proposed changes, and guides for how to write a successful comment. It won’t take long, and it’s the best way to tell DeVos #HandsOffIX.

Date: TODAY, Thursday, December 6
Time: 4-7 PM
Place: Downey Lounge
Facebook Event

All Campus Email: Late Night Midnight Breakfast TONIGHT

Minutes ago, an all-campus email went out announcing the (apparently annual??) Late Night Midnight Breakfast tonight at Usdan!

I, for one, have never heard of this event before in all my years at Wes, and a quick search of my overflowing email inbox revealed no emails about such an event in years past, but I’ve been known to be wrong before. If you have attended one of these in the past, or have any evidence that this event has ever occurred before, drop a comment below or email staff[at]wesleying[dot]edu.

The email reads:

Students – don’t forget that tonight, Thursday, December 6, 2018 is the annual end of semester Midnight Breakfast in Usdan Marketplace.  This event will take place during normal late night hours and will accept meal plan swipes and points!  The menu will consist of an all-you-can eat brunch, similar to the weekend brunch offering.

We hope to see you there!

Bon Appetit Dining

Public Charge: A New Threat to Immigrant Families

Caroline Kravitz ’19 shared this information from Protecting Immigrant Families regarding proposed changes to America’s immigration policy and what you can do to support immigrant families. You can submit public comment at the link above before December 10 to support the effort to prevent this catastrophic rule change.

For more information, check out the flyer below:

Someone Made a Crushes Facebook Group and Why the Fuck are WE not CRUSHED On?!

I’m not salty that someone hasn’t professed their crush on me.

But I am currently matching my red beret with my red lipstick because ~studying abroad in Europe~, and I’m just,,,disappointed.

In case you didn’t see the newest development in “Wesleyan attempts to make another Facebook page outside of Soggy We$ Memes,” someone decided to create a Wesleyan Crushes Facebook group. Now, because I’m hopeful that one day Wesleyan will transform into a campus with some actual romance (and maybe also because I just made a playlist called “when in the mood for monogamy”), I’m willing to find my Wesleyan husband™ not via a Pi Cafe Romance™, but through a community with Roth’s face as the profile pic. I’ve been single for way too long.

Since I’m six hours ahead of ya’ll, I was informed of this new matchmaking/hookup-making/maybe even wholesome content-making platform at around 5 AM. And I’m not sure how I coherently sent this message to the editors’ chat, but this happened:

Now, I’ve had my hand in Internet Dating Culture™ for the purposes of making a fool of myself on Wesleying. This time, I’ve taken it upon myself to make sure the Wesleying Editors are painted in the best light so that, dear Wesleyan community, we can receive validation via this platform.

FINAL MENU

STAR & CRESCENT RESTAURANT
Located at the Alpha Delta Phi House (185 High St.)
LUNCH- 12:00-12:45
DINNER- 5:00-7:00
FIRST THREE FRESHMAN EAT FREE EVERY DAY!!!

MONDAY-
DINNER- Greens w/ Charred Tomato Vin. Shrimp or Tofu & Grits. Spicy Creole Style Grilled Shrimp or Roasted Tofu, Grilled Zucchini & Cheddar Grits
DES- Chocolate & Cayenne Cake w/ Raspberry Coulis & Whipped Cream

TUESDAY-
LUNCH- Ancho Mole Enchiladas w/ Chicken or Tofu
DES- Oatmeal, Craisin, Walnut Chocolate Chip Cookies
DINNER- Greens w/ Toasted Cumin Vin. Chili w/ Beef & Pork or Veggie. Garnished w/ Cheddar, Scallion, Sour Cream & Buttermilk Cornbread. VEGAN ENTREE w/ Scallion Only
DES- Chocolate Cream Pie

WEDNESDAY-
LUNCH- Gruyere, Caramelized Onion & Green Apple Grilled Cheese w/ Bacon or Soy Bacon
DES- Salted Double Chocolate Macadamia Nut Cookies
DINNER- Greens w/ Balsamic Vin. Roasted Butternut Gemelli. Brown Butter & Shallot Roasted Butternut Squash Cream Sauce w/ Chicken or Tofu. Garnished w/ Toasted Pine Nuts & Thyme
DES- Carrot Cake

THURSDAY-
LUNCH- Potato Leek Bisque w/ Crispy Fried Leeks, Bacon(optional) & Rosemary. Served w/ Herb Focaccia
DES- Brownies
DINNER- Greens w/ Curry Vin. Chana Masala w/ Basmati Rice & Garlic Naan. VEGAN ENTREE
DES- Lemon Poppy Cake w/ Berry Coulis & Whipped Cream

Scooters: An Epidemic

Jaclyn and her scooter

According to my fabricated calculations, the scooter uptick in the last 12 months has increased approximately 9-fold. Each day, more and more students are purchasing scooters to hasten their trips to and from their dorms and classes.

After a semester in Professor Cohen’s “Global Change and Infectious Disease” class (a fan favorite among the hypochondriacs of Wes who are completing the level one NSM requirements) I think I know an epidemic when I see one.

I asked an avid scooter user, Jaclyn Lore-Edwards ’21, about her scooting experiences at Wesleyan. “I bought a scooter because this year I’m living on Washington Street which is pretty far from most things on campus. With the mix of living farther from central campus and my inability to be punctual, I bought a scooter so I could get places fast.”

All Campus Email: Changes in Course Re-Take and Incomplete Policies

As #FinalsSzn rapidly approaches/has already begun for many of us, Wesleyan has implemented some new policies which may impact how you address academic challenges this semester and in the future.

This afternoon, Dean for Academic Advancement Louise Brown in Student Affairs sent out an email detailing some changes to academic policies. If you haven’t been keeping a close eye on WSA agendas and committee reports (which are emailed out to the student body prior to weekly Sunday night meetings), you may have been caught off-guard by these seemingly sudden changes to policies that many students don’t even know exist. I do read all the WSA emails (bc I’m a big dork and like to look for fun things to report about), so I was vaguely aware of the new re-take policy, but I had no idea that the incomplete policy was changing.

Here’s a breakdown of what changed, what didn’t, and what it means for students and professors:

Rescheduled: Armand Hammer Concert + Seminar

From Nick Byers ’19:

Armand Hammer is a rap group made up of Brooklyn-based MCs ELUCID and billy woods. They make uncompromising, radical hip-hop music, best described, in their own words, as “An unsparing indictment of everything.” With beats both chaotic and sleek, and lyrics ominous and comic, their music has been rightly characterized as some of the most important experimental rap of the last decade.

Date: Saturday, December 1
Times: 6 PM (Seminar), 10 PM (Concert)
Places: The Resource Center (Seminar), La Casa (Concert)
Facebook Event