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it’s almost valentine’s day, and love is in the air <3

we bring this up not to torture all you single folk (we feel you on that front) or get all gushy, but because bwog (columbia’s version of wesleying) has been running a personals series in the weeks leading up to valentine’s day to help bring love to their readers, and today’s personal was… another blog: nyu local!!! while we’re a little insulted that we weren’t crushed on from afar (but we suppose that is more of a wescrushes thing), we were happy to see the budding romance between bwog and nyu local, and wanted to add our affection to the mix!

nyc might be 2+ hours away physically, but thanks to the ~magical powers of the internet~ we believe that this long-distance love can find a way <3

see below the email exchange that followed:

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I remember the first full-price clothing item I ever bought. No discounts. No coupon. It was my first semester at Wesleyan, and I had to get a black dress for my WesWinds concert. My mom and I had gone to Zara to check their overwhelmingly black aesthetic, and I found a black dress with a lace top. I thought it was the perfect dress until I checked the price tag. $50. We both knew that we would have to wait forever for that dress to go on sale, and I didn’t own an appropriate dress for my concert, which was quickly approaching.

My mom gave me a look and said hadi, which translates into a bunch of things in English. It can mean come on, let’s, but in this situation, it meant, we’re going to ignore the price because this is a pretty dress. Screw it, let’s buy it. It also meant, let’s do this quickly before my wallet changes its mind.

For most of my life, I’ve been much more accustomed to hand-me-downs and clearance rack finds than full-price fashions and expensive trends. Growing up, my favorite outfit was a sequined denim jumpsuit that had been passed down to me. This was, in retrospect, absolutely ridiculous and marginally over-the-top for a pre-teen to wear, but it was special to me. Our hand-me-down system was cross-continental: my friend’s mom would pass down her daughter’s clothes to me, where I would get some use out of it, and then those clothes were packed away to be brought to my cousins in Turkey, where the cascade of hand-me-downs began again: starting with one of the middle cousins, to the one slightly younger, to the second-cousin-twice-removed-or-what-we-just-call-cousin down the line. As long as it was in wearable condition, it was passed down.

Upon one of my visits back home, I saw one of my cousins wearing a dress that I remember wearing in elementary school: white, with some red, orange, and yellow flowers scattered along the hem and waistline. It was one of my favorite dresses; now, it had been passed down two bodies before reaching my cousin’s closet.

The topic of clothing within a low-income family is complex: a web of societal standards of dress combined with financial barriers. I had learned quickly that my mom and I could not afford regular-priced clothing, so our trips to the Gap consisted of darting toward the sale section, calculating sales tax on each item, never crossing the line between clearance and regular-priced, avoiding lusting over a dress that we couldn’t afford. My wardrobe’s guiding logic was out of season: we bought summer clothes in the winter when it went on sale and winter clothes at the beginning of summer, estimating how much I would grow in the meantime. On the few occasions my mom and I went through the in-season section, we would take a mental note on the clothes we would wait to go on clearance, eventually buying them a few months later. This was our process; we waited for coupons, for credit card rewards, for the hand-me-downs supplementing my needs in the meantime.

S&C MENU WEEK OF 2/11

STAR & CRESCENT RESTAURANT
Located at the Alpha Delta Phi House (185 High St.)
LUNCH- 12:00-12:45
DINNER- 5:00-7:00
FIRST THREE FRESHMAN EAT FREE EVERY DAY!!!

MONDAY-
DINNER- Greens w/ Red Wine Vin. Herb Roasted Chicken or Tofu, Garlic Mashed Potato, Maple Glazed Carrots, Caramelized Shallot Sauce
DES- Carrot Cake

TUESDAY-
LUNCH- Huevos Rancheros. Cheddar & Scallion Scramble, Garlic Black Beans, Bacon or Soy Bacon, Avocado, Chipotle Salsa, Fried Tortilla Strips
DES- Coconut Cookies
DINNER- Greens w/ Carrot Ginger Vin. Masaman Curry(Roasted Potato, Sweet Potato, Carrot, Onion & Peanut) w/ Chicken or Tofu & Jasmine Rice
DES- Berry Crisp

WEDNESDAY-
LUNCH- Gruyere, Caramelized Onion & Green Apple Grilled Cheese w/ Bacon or Soy Bacon
DES- Oatmeal, Chocolate Chip, Craisin & Walnut Cookies
DINNER- Greens w/ Balsamic Vin. Rotini Pesto Primavera(Pesto Cream Sauce) w/ Chicken or Tofu
DES- Mint Chocolate Cake

THURSDAY-
LUNCH- Corn & Poblano Chowder w/ Bacon or Soy Bacon & Scallion. Served w/ Herb Focaccia
DES- Brownies
DINNER- Greens w/ Curry Vin. Masaman Curry(Roasted Potato, Sweet Potato, Carrot, Onion & Peanut) w/ Chicken or Tofu & Jasmine Rice
DES- Ginger Spice Cake w/ Whipped Cream

If You Want Your Event Posted to Wesleying, Read This!

A lot of this is recycled text (thx wilk) from recycled text from two years ago (thx Maya) from recycled text from three years ago (thx Samira), but here are some tips and guidelines for submitting your events!

HEY WESLEYAN COMMUNITY!

Did you know that we post events? Wondering if you should submit your event? Well, you should! Wesleying gets anywhere from 500 to 1,200 views per day as of late. Submitting your event to be posted here is good for ~exposure~ and also a way to reach different audiences than those reached by Facebook’s weird algorithm.

We love posting your events, but we get a lot of them. If you want your meeting/audition/application deadline/concert/thing posted to Wesleying on time, please use this form here. This time of the year is especially busy which makes our inbox quickly burst at the seams, so it helps if you submit your event at least 4 or 5 days in advance.

Much of this is elaborated from our event submissions policy, but here are some things you can do to make life easier:

BOOKSLEYING: Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng

Welcome to Booksleying! If you need a refresher on what this is or how the rating system works, check out our introductory post. You can find all the Booksleying posts here.

Title and Author: Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng

Rating: 5 Michael Roths, with a side of Dessert Parfait.

Tl;dr (except you wr): In a small town in 1970s Ohio, Lydia, the daughter of a mixed Chinese-American family is found dead in a nearby lake. Lydia is the apple of her parents’ eyes, the favorite of the three Lee kids, and their apparent perfect family tree falls apart as the investigation begins. Everything I Never Told You dissects a multitude of trauma: immigrant, mixed, Asian, and uncertainty. The novel follows both the investigation of Lydia’s death by delving into the backstories of both her parents, revealing a complicated story of love, betrayal, and ultimately, understanding.

Program Housing Fair & House Hopping Day

Stephanie Burke Lewis from ResLife writes in:

Fanatical for Farming? Smitten with Science? Longing for La Casa? Learn about Program Housing for Fall 2019! Come to the Program Housing Fair on Friday, February 15th from 10:00 am-12:00 pm in Beckham Hall. Tour the houses and meet current house members on Sunday, February 17th from 12:00 pm – 5:00 pm during House Hopping Day! Check out the current Program Houses at https://www.wesleyan.edu/reslife/ugrad_housing/program-housing.html

Date: Friday, February 15 (Fair) & Sunday, February 17 (House Hopping)
Time: 10:00 AM-12:00 PM (Fair) & 12:00-5:00 PM (House Hopping)
Place: Beckham Hall (Fair) & Program Houses (House Hopping)

BOOKSLEYING: COME READ WITH US

Welcome to 2019, where we all decide to embark on a new resolution to eat healthier, maybe make it to Freeman, or actually go to class for once.

Saadia (sdzand I have been exchanging book recommendations for some time now, and after a caps-lock induced discussion, the Book-slying was born/birthed/created. I’ve decided to invest in some self-care by reading a book at least every two weeks, and instead of incessantly posting about the books I read on Instagram, I (we) will take the time to review what we’ve been procrastinating our work with.

But let’s be honest, I will continue to incessantly post about the books I’m reading. It’s just the way I am.

The goal for this series is to come with a book review every week, alternating between the two of us, making each of us responsible for a book every two weeks. Melisa reads a lot, Saadia does not. This is an attempt to bridge that gap.

Read below the jump for an explanation of the rating system!

Star and Crescent — FIRST MENU OF THE SEMESTER

STAR & CRESCENT RESTAURANT
Located at the Alpha Delta Phi House (185 High St.)
LUNCH- 12:00-12:45
DINNER- 5:00-7:00
FIRST THREE FRESHMAN EAT FREE EVERY DAY!!!

MONDAY-
DINNER- Greens w/ Honey Dijon Vin. Roasted Chicken or Tofu, Lyonnaise Potato, Charred Poblano Purée, Corn Salad
DES- Apple Cinnamon Crumb Cake, Bourbon Caramel, Whipped Cream

TUESDAY-
LUNCH- Grilled Pineapple, Chipotle BBQ Flank Steak or Tofu Tacos, Cabbage Slaw, Chipotle Mayo
DES- Snickerdoodle Cookies
DINNER- Greens w/ Carrot Ginger Vin. Red Curry w/ Chicken or Tofu & Jasmine Rice
DES- Coconut Cake

WEDNESDAY-
LUNCH- Pesto, Mozzarella, Tomato & Baby Arugula w/ Grilled Balsamic Chicken or Portobello on Toasted Multigrain
DES- Salted Double Chocolate Macadamia Nut Cookies
DINNER- Greens w/ Balsamic Vin. Baked Rigatoni Bolognese w/ Italian Sausage & Beef or Soy Veggie Crumble, Topped w/ Mozzarella & Ricotta
DES- Triple Chocolate Cake w/ Whipped Cream

THURSDAY-
LUNCH- Roasted Butternut Squash Bisque, Garnished w/ Toasted Almond & Thyme Served w/ Herb Focaccia
DES- Blondies
DINNER- Greens w/ Curry Vin. Navratan Korma w/ Basmati Rice & Garlic Naan.
DES- Lemon Poppy Cake w/ Berry Coulis & Whipped Cream