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The Wesleyan Consent Pledge

Andrew Trexler ’14 writes in on a subject that has been unfortunately relevant on campus in recent weeks and months:

To the Wesleyan community:

As you are all (hopefully) aware, sexual violence continues in our community with a tragic and alarming frequency. In an effort to promote awareness of the importance of consent, we have launched what we are calling the Wesleyan Consent Pledge. The pledge is simple:

“I pledge to actively seek and obtain legitimate consent with any and all partners, to look after the safety and well-being of my peers, and to actively combat a culture of rape acceptance in my community.”

To date, over 500 Wesleyan students, faculty, and staff have taken the pledge. We hope that every member of our community will take the pledge soon, and we hope that all will keep the pledge indefinitely.

I hope that you will join me in taking the Wesleyan Consent Pledge here.

Together, we can eliminate sexual violence in our community.

Here’s the link to the pledge.

Sex Signs Workshop

Sign language for "hot."Want to practice enthusiastic consent without waking up your roommate? Holly Everett ’15 has got a sexy idea for you:

Good with your hands?

Sign Language House wants you to prove it. Come by the house Wednesday April 10th at 6 pm for a comprehensive lesson in ASL sex signs. We will cover words and phrases relating to sex, sexual arousal, protection, and body parts, as well as discuss issues around sexual education in the Deaf community.

No sign language background necessary.

Feel free to come early (5:30ish) for regular sign house conversation hour with ASL pro Karen Warren.

Date: Today, April 10th
Time: 5:30pm
Place: Sign House (64 Lawn)
Cost: 0

In Store for a New Pair of Undies?


SART Intern Rachel Verner ’15 wants you to look good for Undies in Olin to make your conversations about consent a little sexier:

Let your laundry pile grow a little while longer with a few extra pairs of underwear. And even better, help promote sexual consent while you rock your new duds. All underwear are marked with the logo “assk” to remind you both to seek and give consent, and proceeds will be going towards sexual violence prevention. There are 5 styles options, and 3 colour choices for each. Once the shipment comes in, we will have Iron-On Transfer Stations where you can personalize your underwear with your own phrases of consent.

Order here by April 9th!

Cost: $10/pair or 3 paris for $25Payments can be made to Rachel Verner ’15 (SART Intern), Christian Hosam ’15 (Dwight Greene Intern), and Katy Thompson ’15 (QRC Intern).

Keep an eye on the Facebook Event for details on where and when we’ll be collecting money. All underwear is a product of American Apparel Wholesale.

Oh Megan Talks Dirty


The PHA’s invite you to join Megan Andelloux for a two hour-long interactive lecture on developing our sexual self-understanding: from becoming comfortable with what you want to learning how to communicate those desires to your partners. You’ll learn more about understanding and entertaining your own wants and needs, what other people are into, masturbation techniques (fundamental to exploring your sexuality!), and verbal and nonverbal communication tools. A special focus will be given on how to either give enthusiastic consent or turn people down.

Anonymous questions will be taken from audience members and answered during the presentation, so come with queries in hand! There will be free-goodie-giveaways!

Date: Thursday, November 15
Time: 7 pm (but come early to guarantee yourself a seat)
Place: Crowell Concert Hall
Cost: Free

Check out Facebook for more info.

Win a Free Sex Toy from PHA

What to win a free sex toy of your choice? Take this three easy steps:

  1. Stop by the PHA table in Usdan during lunch on Tuesday, Nov 13th.
  2. Write your favorite consent phrase on a post it to enter into the raffle.
  3. Hope and pray that you your name gets drawn.

Date: Tuesday, November 13
Time: 11 am – 1:00 pm
Place: Usdan

From Hook-ups to Relationships: Keeping it Consensual Workshop

Students for Consent and Communication invites you to a conversation about enthusiastic consent, sexual assault, and rape culture:

Through this workshop, we will provide a space to discuss and reflect on these important issues and build skills on how to obtain consent in relationships and discern whether a person is able to provide consent. We will also discuss bystander intervention strategies, develop personal definitions of consent and examine Wesleyan’s policies dealing with consent and sexual misconduct.

Location: Downey House Lounge
Date: Wednesday, October 10
Time: 7 – 8:30 pm

RVSP to rverner(at)wesleyan(dot)edu and bring your friends! Check out the Facebook event here.

Healthy Relationships Workshop

Maggie Cohen ’12 writes in:

Missed the first workshop a couple of weeks ago? Here’s a second opportunity to learn and discuss with other active individuals on communication and healthy relationships. Join us for a lively discussion about building and maintaining healthy relationships. Through self-reflection, movement and skills-building, clarify your needs in relationships and learn how to set boundaries and manage conflict.

Date: Wednesday, May 2
Time: 7 pm – 9 pm
Place: Usdan 110
Cost: Free