The moment you’ve been waiting for is here at last – Wesleyan’s favorite sex educator, Megan Andelloux, is back! Come to “Decoding Desires,” an interactive lecture focusing in on the core desires and reasons people are sexual in the first place! With Oh Megan’s help, you will get a chance to acknowledge your own desires and fantasies, to reduce fear and shame about those desires, and to work toward embracing consent and planning for the creation of your own personal sexual adventure.
Come prepared with a pen/pencil and get ready to play (crayons will be provided)! And COME EARLY – the hall fills up fast, and you don’t want to miss this!
The editors of The Village Voice wanted someone to write about sex. Dan Savage’s weekly advice column “Savage Love” was gaining popularity and had outgrown its place in the back of the paper, alongside 900 numbers and ads for escorts. Sex needed a new section.
They convened a meeting. The late Don Forst, editor-in-chief at the time, asked if anyone had a writer in mind. One editor suggested the “Adventure Girl” columnist from the lesbian feminist publication On Our Backs. Was that the same woman who wrote that book on anal sex, another editor asked. A third wanted to know if she used to run her own ‘zine.
All three had in mind the same person: Tristan Taormino ’93, author, feminist pornographer, and now, sex columnist. They brought her into the Village Voice offices.
“They said they had one concern: Is there really that much to write about sex? Can you keep that going for a while?” Taormino said. “And of course, I kept it going for almost a decade.
“My answer then, and proves to be, yes.”
As Taormino has shaped her career, her brand of feminism has promoted realistic views of sex and sexuality by keeping politics and ethics at the forefront of her work. She had to carve her own path, but in doing so, she paved the way for dynamic change.
Abby Spector ’12 is interested in studying sex—not “sex” as we discovered it when we hit puberty and watched our first porno at a slumber party, but sex as it really is. In other words, she sees sexuality through the eyes of Phoebe Buffay, George Michael Bluth, or the guy pictured above. Her experiences with sex education began when she became a regular blogger for the progressive sex blog Em and Lo. She then interned with sex educator and feminist pornographer Tristan Taormino ’93. This year, her experience has culminated in the beautiful blog that is Sexy Awkward Times.
What is Abby’s writing like, exactly? Combine the self-empowered sex positivity of Salt n Peppa, the unfailing pithiness of Liz Lemon, and the hilarious awkwardness of Kristen Wiig. Then mix in a whole lot of candor, chutzpah, and Wesleyan-style weirdness, and you’ve got yourself this here blog.
In each video, she answers an anonymous question from one of her audiences which she didn’t have time to answer during a presentation. Whatever your awkward questions, if you’re a sex nerd, or if you’re trying educate yourself while avoiding homework… between Megan’s videos and her workshop on sex toys tomorrow night, you should be set. Below is her first video, in which she answers a question about putting starbusts in a vagina (and answers seriously, respectfully, and scientifically, at that).