Wesleyan alums go on to do many things, one of which is to marry their college sweethearts. For a Valentine’s Day special, I reached out to these WesCouples to briefly get their stories on how they met and transitioned to the “real world” post-college. Some of them are now parents to current Wes students (and are worried this post will be embarrassing), or hope that their newborns will be someday. Their first meetings (hallmates in the Butts; SOC pre-frosh orientation) and frequent date spots (WesWings..) will be familiar and heartwarming for most of us.
Look forward to a second installment of WesCouples on Valentine’s Day. Read about their lovely stories after the jump:
PSA from Alessandra Cervera ’16:
I’ve got a crush on you.
If you have a crush on me too, you’ll buy me a Crush can.
Rho Epsilon Pi and Delta Kappa Epsilon are teaming up this week to bring you Crush can Valentines grams. There’s no better way to tell that special someone in your life that you think they’ve got a great personality (plus orange soda!!).
Cans cost $1 each and come with a label so you can ~*personalize*~ it to your liking (maybe a lil love note?). All proceeds will then go to the North End Action Team, right here in Middletown. If you want to find out more about their community projects, click here.
Here’s how the grams will work:
It’s Friday/Valentine’s Day! You know what that means? Time to get that sweet sweet consensual lovin’ on! (Though let’s be fair, it should always be that time). We wanted to take this time to remind everyone about access to protection on campus, so we asked Willa Beckman ’15, who works for WesWell, a few questions:
Students can get condoms for free on campus?? What’s the deal with that?
Yes! Students can get SO MANY CONDOMS FOR FREE ON CAMPUS. We have a whole wall of condoms in the WesWell office at Davison Health Center. Come by and grab some! Also, if you work for reslife, you should come pick up one of our pre-made goodie bags to keep your residents protected all the time!
From the beautiful senior ladies of SHOFCO:
This Valentines Day…
Woo your boo! Embarrass your homie! Prank your frenemie!
Buy a Singing Gram and a Wesleyan a capella group of your choice will come serenade your loved one!
All proceeds go to Shining Hope For Communities!
Date: Tomorrow, February 13
Place: Usdan table
Time: Lunch and Dinner
Extra! Extra! Jason Brandner ’16 has got a message for ya:
Happy Valentine’s Day Wesleyan,
Are you looking for the perfect way to show your affection this Valentine’s Day? Want to share the love? You are in luck because the Germinal Fund team is available to hand delivery Valentine’s Day goody bags right to your special someone’s door!
These bags will be full of delicious candy & fruit as well as a personalized message (if you want) and will be delivered on Valentine’s Day for the low, low price of $5!
All the proceeds will go to benefit local small businesses!
We will have a table at Usdan from 11-1 Tuesday-Thursday where you can sign up!
We are also taking online orders here and you can pay (and get the reference/confirmation number for the form) here. Simply click donate, enter the amount $5, and put the confirmation/reference number in your google form.
Date: February 11th – February 14th
Time: 11PM – 1PM IRL or whenever online!
Place: Usdan or Online!
Alex Irace ’15 proposes a Valentine’s Day investment:
WesStuffed is doing a huge Valentine’s Day raffle! We’re selling tickets for $1 at Usdan lunch from 11 AM–1 PM every day this week, and will also be at Espwesso selling tickets from 9–11 PM. We have over ten prizes, including $50 gift certificates to restaurants like Mondo, free ice cream, frozen yogurt, cupcakes, and more!
Date: February 11–14
Place: Selling tickets at Usdan lunch (11–1 PM) and Espwesso (9–11 PM)
Facebook info here
Pictured: chocolate valentines from mom. Really.
Valentine’s Day kind of fizzled out when I was in high school. The teachers stopped handing out candy, and unless you had a significant other, the only thing you cared about was your chemistry exam that day. With the occasional joke about being single and forever alone, Valentine’s Day had disappeared as a fun, childhood holiday, expected to make a revival when I got a boyfriend who’d forget to buy flowers.
I expected college to be the same, especially a college like Wesleyan where today’s hookup mentality has been fully embraced. I figured it’d be a nonissue.
Boy, was I wrong.
The hype started on the first day of the semester, when my social psychology professor changed up the syllabus so we’d study interpersonal attraction on this most special of days. I thought that was cute, not realizing how exhausting it would be by the time Valentine’s Day actually rolled around.
A few days ago, the fliers and notices started going out about all the different Valentine’s Day fundraisers and events on campus: a cappella serenades, candy grams, and four-course meals at Usdan. But Wesleyan doesn’t only cater to couples—there’s also a “Fuck Valentines Day” singles Slowdance performance (which I can’t help but wish was actually a bunch of people waltzing without partners).
Or, “Why You Are Actually In Love and Just Didn’t Realize It”
Yes, that’s President Roth ’78 gazing up at Clark Hall longingly in 1977.
Valentine’s Day seems to have gone out of fad. It’s a day to bemoan, moan, eat chocolate, buy into or cynically quip about commercialization of holidays, and generally feel bad about another year having gone by without finding that special someone.
But it’s time to give Valentine’s Day the justice it deserves.
Wesleyan is awash in couple celebration today. Wesleyan University Facebook posts like this, for “Love Bugs” alumni to tell their couple story, and Argus articles like this and this, about what to do if you are single or in a couple on Valentine’s Day, or Argus polls about nominating the sexiest single are symptoms of obsessive culture around a single/couple dichotomy. At a campus where we like to toss around words like “messing up the heteronormative patriarchy,” maybe we could turn an eye to the relationship one.
Because even if you’re not in love with someone, or even if your love is missing reciprocation, Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate all of the love—all of it. It can be a day to honor, celebrate, and proudly blast the stereo over your head for the love that does not fit perfectly into the typical monogamous couple picture we all seem to be myopically stuck on. If your life does not match coupledom, you have not failed—you can still be happy, and it does not mean that you are out of love. If your life does, there are still some unconventional love valentines to be given out this year.
Eric Lopez ’15 brings you ear candy to accompany your lonely, companionless soul this Valentine’s Day:
HONESTLY FUCK VALENTINE’S DAY AND ALL THIS ROMANTIC SHIT
COME OUT AND HAVE SOME SWEET SWEET TUNES QUELCH THE FIRE IN YOUR HEART (and pants).
SLOWDANCE: COMING OUT OF BROOKLYN, NEW YAWK, THEY ROCK OUT TO SONGS WITH FRENCH LYRICS. WHAT MORE DO YOU NEED.
FEATHERWOOD BEE: DRUNK ASS FEATHERWOOD BEE IS AT IT AGAIN.
DON’T MISS OUT ON ONE OF THE BEST WESLEYAN BANDS.
So get off those ACB M4whatever posts and come enjoy a non-saccharine cultural bonanza.
Date: Thursday, February 14th
Time: 10 pm
Place: WestCo Café
From the angelic Maeve Russell ’14:
Need something for your sweetheart this Valentine’s Day? SHOFCO and Wesleyan’s a capella groups are teaming up for the ultimate gift: a live delivery of beautiful singers serenading your boo at ze’s door.
We’ll be selling these performances ($10 each) on Monday-Wednesday at lunch and dinner in Usdan. Then just wait and enjoy all the serenading that will happen on Valentine’s Day! Supply is extremely limited, so knowing your loved one’s campus address and having a vague idea of their Thursday whereabouts will be helpful!
Here’s the lineup:
NEW GROUP: Love On Top- Beyonce, Secret- Maroon 5, I Wanna Be Your Lover- Prince
Delivery @ 12am Thursday (midnight Wednesday)
NOTABLY SHARP: S&M- Rihanna, Time of the Season- The Zombies, This Love- Maroon 5
Delivery @ 12pm Thursday